Your View of Life - our most important blog post ever ! November 30, 2007
Posted by Barry & Heather in : Beyond "The Secret" Wisdom , trackbackWe’re going to share a few inspiring stories with you (even though they may seem horrible at the beginning) and then provide a FREE resource ( access to 5 coveted video tutorials valued at over $97 ) that you can use immediately to help you do what we do:
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We were hosting one of our famous 2-on-1 simulcasts a month ago and when we opened up the lines, like we always do towards the end of the call, one of the lucky attendees got a chance to ask their question to our guest mentor.
Our loyal regulars always know our protocol, which is to ask a concise, clear question and then let our teacher answer.
But, for whatever reason, we got a ‘talker’ this time around and it was almost hard to interrupt him. All we could do is listen to a man, from Indiana, tell the most incredible version of a self-sabotaging personal experience.
Meaning, he was pretty descriptively on-target about his current financial reality - i.e., complaining and whining to our guest mentor, like it was acceptable to hog the line, about how hard it is for him to travel and enjoy dormant hobbies because he’s working a 50-hour per week JOB that’s making him, in his own words, “just over broke.”
Not only that, he told us how he’s only 7 years away from retirement age with little or no funds and that Social Security may not be there for him.
Yes, the comments / questions went on and on… “how am I supposed to stay positive and focused when there hasn’t been any improvement with my money situation?”; “the only reason you guys make money is because you sell your knowledge and products…” blah, blah, blah…
( click on the “more..” link below to read our mentor’s response )
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Our guest teacher, in the most delicate but ‘take notice’ manner, said: “Wow, that’s pretty darn good. With a lot of detailed emotion, you’ve just mastered the art of getting exactly what you expect”.
“Wud ya mean?”, the caller quickly asked.
“It’s simple”, he continued, “but I also know it’s so hard for folks who are used to immersing themselves into illusionary experiences. Like you, a lot of people’s reality will automatically line up in a way so that it can provide them with proof of whatever they chose to focus on and believe.”
The caller was still confused and said, “but, how’s that relate to my financial situation?”
Our guest mentor went on to explain how this person’s vivid self-talk and descriptions to us about what was really going on in his life was causing him to proliferate that reality into his experience.
Let us give you a scene from a recent Hollywood movie that might help you understand this whole idea of how everything in your life is the way it is because of how you think about and describe to others your unwanted realities.
The Wedding Date is a romantic comedy starring Debra Messing and Dermot Mulroney.
In the movie, Kat (Messing) is flying to London to attend her sister’s wedding where Kat’s ex-fiance (who dumped her) is going to be the best man. To create the illusion that she’s moved on with her life and is unaffected by the break-up, she hires an escort (Mulroney) to pretend to be her new fiance. She found him by reading an interview of him in a magazine.
At one point in the movie, she’s talking to Nick (played by Mulroney) about a comment in the interview that she didn’t agree with.
She reads the section to him:
“You said (and I quote), ‘I believe every woman has the exact love life she wants’… do you honestly believe that I want to be single and miserable? Do you think I want to be hung up on some guy who led me on for years and then — out of the blue — shattered my heart?”
Nick replies, “First of all, there’s no such thing as ‘out of the blue’. And secondly… yeah, I do.”
She’s incredulous.
She yells, “What??”
Nick says, “When you’re ready to let go, to be un-single and un-miserable… you will. Till then…” and walks away.
There’s a HUGE lesson there that most people don’t get. Even the ones who SAY they get it don’t really get it. And, just like the case with the caller above, you can tell they don’t get it because they’re not living it.
The basic lesson is very simple: you are where you are right now - you’ve been experiencing what you don’t really want to experience - because you made the choice, at some unconscious level, to be there.
Some people will argue that they didn’t choose their present circumstances. Or that it’s luck. Or “the breaks”. Or they say they’re on “part of a learning curve” or something. But the truth is that you can look at every area of your life: your marriage, your bank account, your relationship with others, your parenting, your physical health and the fact remains the same: you are where you are because that’s where your opinions, beliefs, and decisions PUT you.
Have you noticed that compared with the person who is ‘being’ sad, the person who is ‘being’ happy seems to have, all the time, all the money and all the energy to do important things in their life?
Many people think that if they had more time, more money or more energy then they would be truly happy. But they don’t get the connection between ‘not being very happy right now’ and ‘not having the time, money or energy they want.’
There’s a principle we’ve learned recently that is one of the most IMPORTANT principles to “grasp” with all your mental strength.
Truly, if you can understand what we’ve shared above, and what we’re about to share right now, you can take your life into many WANTED experiences FAST !
The principle we’re about to reveal is unfortunately used backwards by most people.
It’s called BE-DO-HAVE and, just like we have in the past, a lot of people get stuck in “ruts” (whether financial, emotional, or mental) because they’ve got the flow reversed. As in HAVE-DO-BE.
You know these people ( maybe it’s you ).
Like, you probably know of somebody who’s said stuff like, “If I only had more money, I’d invest,” or “If I only had more time, I could start a business…”
We talk to many, many people every day who are in the process of creating a true “Life Without Limits” experience for themselves… but, still, even in this pool of ambitious people we know, a great majority still don’t take certain “assume the role” steps that are essential.
For instance, most people, when asked “what do you want out of life?” respond with:
> More Time
> Travel the World
Yet statistically, only 21% of the entire population even has a passport. However, $54 Billion dollars were spent on lottery tickets in 2005 alone.
So, which group of people do you think is most likely to travel the world?
The BE-DO-HAVE principle says…
“In order to have something, you must first take on the role of already having it.”
So, for instance, if your goal is to become a full-time online entrepreneur, like us, then with every choice you are given on a day-to-day basis, you simply ask yourself the question:
If I already was a full-time online entrepreneur, what would I choose ?
BE-DO-HAVE is simply BE the person first, DO what that person would do, then you’ll HAVE what that person has.
Emulate someone who is achieving the results you want. Ask yourself what that person would do in your situation given a decision that would bring you closer to your goal. You will get an immediate response, void of the limiting emotions and beliefs that often hold us back.
Whether you understand it or not, the BE-DO-HAVE principle applies to your life. Choosing not to apply it could be the very thing that is keeping you from achieving results in every area of your life and from obtaining all the wealth and freedom you desire.
Study this principle, apply it to everything you do, and just imagine what you can achieve!
Sure, when you strip it down to its core, it’s nothing more than a way of looking at life. It is nothing more or less than that. Yet this way of looking at life could change your life — and probably will!
Now, there’s one other thing we have to mention (or repeat) here:
BEING results in HAVING!
And, how to BE is often closely related to who you learn from, hang out with, and get to know.
The Law of Association basically says:
Unhealthy, unhappy, and broke people hang around unhealthy, unhappy, broke people.
In other words, you can get a “leg up” or an edge on BEING who you want to be by associating with others who have already BEEN where you want to go.
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Hi Heather and Barry,
thank you for sharing this story. It is so true, Be-Do-Have. So easy to forget sometimes when going through a rat race like day. But as you wrote, Study and Apply = Practice every day until you really are, the you will do automatically the right things and will have naturally what you should have as the person you are. BTW, very good way to study is to listen to your great interviews again and again….
Hi Heather and Everybody,
Too busy to comment,
For I am downloading my videos…
Thank you very, very much,
not only for the videos,
but EVERYTHING YOU STAND FOR!
Gratefully,
Merry MM
Absolutely profound Information..
I love all of you at The Masters of The Secret blog.
I am infinitely greatful.
Hi Heather and Barry…
Thanks for such a great post! You certainly gave us lots of thought-provoking information. I wonder how many people really do get the idea of Be Do Have…. and if they do get it, how long can they keep it up for and keep applying the principle. It really is a life changing principle that cannot be a hit and miss thing if you really do want to get the most out of your life.
Best wishes
Jeanne
http://www.aspirationsplus.com
Thank you for your constant reminders along the way to my fulfillment. While I have known the BE - DO - HAVE principle, my forgetter machine in my brain works overtime to keep me from enjoying life to the fullest with unlimited resources.
Your committment to improving lives around the world will continue to bring you riches beyond all expectations.
Thank you for BE-ing.
how do i get past, the part of mind that says, “bullshti” thats not true, y know it” etc… that try to destroy the new “being” thing im offering …
How can I more successfully apply faith in a way, that I can actually believe it… Because if I really do not believe it deep inside, it will not work..never.. I know that (
yes,there are ways to believe impossible thougths.
Believe in yourself… Make the best out of what you have, and youll be granted better things,
jesus unveiled the secret in mathew chp25, ver14—
just meditate upon it, and see if you catch something.
Just look at success people in whatever area their succeeded at, before they where aknowleged a sussess, they just couldnt anything but try the best out of what they had, believng in themselves in the tiny blessing they been granted, and man they got more because of that..
You guys are effin awesome…I purchased your interviews a while back and listen to them on my I POD when I need a little pick me up. Thank you also for this simple straightforward article…
I think Einstein was the one who said that the biggest question that we need to answer for ourselves is if we live in a friendly universe or not…
Happy thoughts to you and yours!!!
All to often people begin digging a negative hole for themselves and before long they’re complaining the deep mess they’re in. It’s like your guest host said that guy manifested the world he was in.
The solution is as simple as reversing his negative pattern. A small regular positive visualization is a fantastic investment. It can flip his entire situation.
But I guess, that would take a little will-power. And without the willpower to nurture our mental garden we end up with weeds.
Thanks for your post.
Mark
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Be-Do-Have I put this principal into practice in June 2006 when I left the rat race. I left the teaching profession after fourteen years to begin a business for myself. I currently work at Dunkin Donuts and started a part-time job this week.
My wife could not see me bring in no money anymore, I have to be a bread winner.
What do you do if you really do have no money? I you had plenty you would go out and buy what you need. How can you “be” rich and go out and “do” when there is no money to do it with? (What was your answer to No, 6?)
So let me ask you something in regards to this man from Indiana. Did you listen to his words with your heart? or did you respond to his cry for help with the ego mind?
Hi Heather & Barry:
You nailed it with this post. When I was rebuilding my life, I was taught, “fake it til you make it.”
A great question to ask is, “If I were already the person I want to become, what would I do in this situation?
Then go and do it.
Be- do - have
Keep em coming.
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Please allow me to chime in on the question from #6 & #12 above.
This is where you can use something called a “bridge belief” or “bridge affirmation”
Michael Losier (Law of Attraction) suggests saying something like, “I’m in the process of . . . .”
I’ve coached clients to use something like this, “Even though I do not have …., I’m learning new strategies to grow my business,” etc.
The key is to find a statement that *feels* better than life stinks:-)
This is so true!! I am a living example of this principle, and I find that the more I can BE and DO, the more I have! But I know it is hard when you are down at the bottom, and you really don’t believe that you CAN be what you want, since you don’t feel like you HAVE enough to DO anything with — but you do. It’s really just a change in perspective. Not that it’s easy, but sometimes you just have to take a leap, and DO first.
For me, 3 years ago, I was dead-broke, barely paying the rent, living with 3 roomates, driving a 10-year old car that was literally falling to pieces, not going anywhere in my job, and with no ideas on where to go, or how things could get any better…. Life was the pits. I was depressed and hopeless. Then I read a book that changed my life — I don’t even remember now, what it was called! I think it might have been “The Midas Touch,” or “The Midas Method” or something like that. It said to visualize what you want, and you will have it. Well, I didn’t believe that at all, but I decided to suspend my disbelief and just give it a shot — to prove the book wrong, if nothing else! I started doing the exercises, faithfully, every day, exactly as instructed. Within one week (not kidding!) I got another part-time job, AND a raise at my current job! Two months later, I quit both of those jobs for a much better one (I am still at that job now, and it’s the only place I want to be — I love it!), and a new (well, barely used) car pretty much fell in my lap. I even got some money for the old one, which sold in less than 2 weeks!
I am a firm believer now! Life is so great, and it just keeps getting better and better! But sometimes you have to take that first step on faith, and DO, and everything else just comes. Not always quickly, but if you keep at it, and BE grateful for every day, and every thing that you have (even if it’s not much), it will come!
Rose.
“A person is just about as happy as they make up their minds that they want to be.”
Abraham Lincoln- I’m not sure Abe ever read “The Secret”
Hi Jim,
Great to hear from you!
Thanks for the input… and we all like Michael Losier’s approach to affirmations too.
Another technique — this came from Eva Gregory who is featured in my upcoming Success Unwrapped book — is to say, “I could have that.” Dom, you don’t actually have to go spend the money as if you were rich… you just get used to feeling grateful that you COULD buy that something if you wanted to.
I do that when I get a professional massage or spa treatment (which costs money, but not as much as some of us might think). As I enjoy the pampering (and I make sure to enjoy every second of it), I think “I’m so grateful that I can afford to treat myself to this,” or “I’m so grateful that Barry got me this wonderful gift.”
Gratitude is a powerful manifesting emotion.
If you need an extra tool for this worthiness issue, a lot of people have had great successes on removing blocks with EFT.
cheers
Heather
Hi,
I have to say they are right when they tell you they did not create the suffering they experience.
My name is Tutikira and I am a Life counsellor and philosopher.
Life is a work of art that for many is still in progress. It is not possible for everyone to have a finished masterpiece in their hands. We do not say to artists, “you wanted to create a piece of junk, and that is why your painting is rubbish!” - this is terribly insensitive.
If you want to help someone create a better piece of art, or a better life, don’t tell them something abstract like “you wanted to create bad art”, or “you wanted a bad life!” - as this is rubbish. No creature in creation WANTS to feel pain, it is the very nature of pain that if we had choice we would not experience it.
Tell them how to start again, give them a new brush technique - or a method for being more clear.
By the way, in the end the best method for Self esteem building is to have a worthy service that others value, or to be working toward this.
If you have something of inherent value people will need you, and thus have a respect for you. At this point the process of feeling worthy prosperity becomes less superficial - you truly ARE worthy of prosperity because you are doing things that help the world.
Peace to you.
Tutikira Phoenix.
An excellent article.
The only meaning that anything has, is the meaning you assign it. You may need to change your emotional state to assign an empowering meaning and get away from the dis-empowering thoughts. Your belief system is paramount. You need to take control of it and examine your beliefs, replace the dis-empowering beliefs with empowering beliefs in order to surge ahead.
As for “wanting to create…”, no one wants to create lack. However, they default to the “creation of lack” by continuing to do things the way they have always done it. Without the conscious effort to change, which will become habit, and then becomes subconscious, then change is unlikely.Avoiding pain is natural, however, when you are faced with a choice of avoiding 2 different pains; one that leads to success, and the other that is a stronger pain that will give you temporary relief, the stronger pain will be dealt with, leaving you to deal with continued mediocrity. An example would be a headache. Find the cause or take an aspirin. Dealing with the cause is too hard, takes work, whereas an aspirin will provide the temporary relief, but no success in treating the problem.
Have a GREAT DAY!
Douglas
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Being is the key, true; but there are many whose only experience is of being needy, weak, and powerless. I work with people who have no loving parental influences in their lives, and to tell these people they’re creating the misery they’re experiencing isn’t very helpful if they’ve known nothing else. We learn aboutour worthiness, or assume a lack of it, from parents, largely. Those without the basic reassurance of kind words and parental interest are at a huge disadvantage - and it applies to huge numbers of people, not just the ones who ‘get into trouble!’ What we’re familiar with is what we tend to stick with and recreate, emotionally. Having lacked the emotional food you need from day one - i.e never having experienced happiness, or being accepted, or belonging, means imagining yourself being happy or successful at anything is a huge leap! It’s one that can’t always be achieved without external help, just as someone drowning in the ocean needs a hand into the liferaft.
The real help anyone can offer another is to focus the energy and vibrations of compassion, understanding, and Love towards them, first; that way you build a sort of vibrational bridge for them to feel the new, better experience as real, now.
I think in order to let go of our old hell, we need someone to share our suffering with us if only for a moment. Allowing someone that time is really valuable; the suffering is real, and needs to be acknowledged before they’re able to start letting it go.
Loving someone means accepting them as they are, and offering them whatever they need from a higher, loving perspective. No amount of knowledge of the principles of attraction etc will do as much as feeling the genuine love and interest of another human being - someone who is already where you long to be.
I’d love to see the Nitro Videos, but the Nitro Video links keep bringing up a “page cannot be displayed” message.
Mary, you read access the Nitro Blueprint Videos here:
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Hi Heather and Barry,
That was great-BEING results in HAVING.
Actually Emotion sets things in motion.
When you feel something,you are likely to do it.
For 50 years I had never exercised,despite knowing fully well its immense benefits.
Yet I didn’t or did it very haphazardly.
Only 2 weeks back,my friend,Naini,who is a fitness trainer,called me to wish me for Diwali,our Hindu festival.
She again prompted and pleaded me to workout.
About that same time,Isaw the videos of Eben Pagan’s training.One of them was a clip by Jim Loehr.
That struck twelve.
Bingo.
Coincidentally,I was also reading Jim’s new book-The Power of a Story.
Always a great believer in the power of stories(Iactually wish I had written this book)this book reinforced my belief to exercise now.
God has been great to me for not giving me any major illness despite my sedentary lifestyle.
Now I realise the gains of exercising.
And I do.
So that feeling has to come in.
Emotions propel motion or action.
We act because we feel.
Thanks,
Manju Thirani
Thank you so much for all the wonderful messages that you send to us. I’m going through a tough time at the moment, but I am determined to use the Be-Do-Have principle in my life because I realised that I am the only one to change my life.
Once again thank you.
God’s Blessings
Regards
My wife and I consider ourselves newbie’s in the world of attraction, having found the message around August 07 and starting our path side by side with tutors, Nay Life Guru’s such as Lynn Grabhorn “Excuse me Your Life is waiting” and Dr Joseph Murphy “The power of Your Subconscious Mind” and have to say that although it can be difficult, strange and confusing to start with, especially when you have little to start with. I have to say IT WORKS!! (If you work it) Privy to all this information I personally was no stranger to life changing experiences and have been for the last 8 Years and 10 months, recovering from Acute Alcoholism, just one day at a time, and like the workings of Attraction. It Stops working whenever you do. I have found that craving the knowledge, the search, for wisdom and learning how others achieve this in their own ways and adapting what I see, hear and read to our own circumstances is working it in itself (More then most these days) like the first day at a new school, and that my mind is a new sponge ready to assimilate awe inspiring information that I know will improve my existence, knowledge that I already have all the tools, all the know-how, and that I am the instrument of my being. IT ONLY WORKS WHEN YOU WORK IT. I remember a saying that was installed in me many years ago and without knowing at the time exactly what it meant I tried to follow it as best I could. “LET GO and LET GOD” It occurs to me now that I am GOD and that I must let myself work to achieve what I want. Please see my Mind Movie which I use daily to affirm to myself. You can see it FREE at: http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=q–L-IK3hH0
Thank You Barry & Heather For everything I have learnt from you and what I have yet to learn. My appreciation for you and your teachings are paramount & requirement to my success.
I love this blog post. Very insightful indeed. THese three little word: Be-Do-Have are very meaningful and often not given the proper attention by most humanbeings. We use them all the time and often do not really think deeply about their meaning. Dictionary definitions are as follows:
Be: (1) to exist in actuality, have reality or life. ie, I think, therefore I am.
Who do you want to be? What do you want to do or be?
Where do you want to be? When do you want to be that?
The only time you know you have is now.You will Be what you THINK you will Be in all the aspects of BE. IN order to BE anything better than your present Being, you must first BE it in your mind and then you will Be that is the time and space physical reality.First make up your mind about your BEingness: what kind of you will you BE? It’s your choice.
That will determine your BEing. All the rest-DO and Have will fall into place accordingly.
DO: (1) to perform or execute. (2) to carry out the requirements or; fulfill. (3) TO create, invent or compose. Make. (4) To bring about,effect, cause. (5) To bring or put forth,put into action , exert. (6) To behave or conduct oneself.
ONce you decide what or who you WILL BE, your will power, (the power to do is in the will) , you will be able to do. The power is already there.
HAVE: (1) To be in possession, own. (2) to be related to. (3) To hold in ones mind, entertain, ( have faith in something) . To hold by law or entitlement.
It all makes very clear sense to me.
BE first in mind and imagination. Do what you will be and behave (Be-have) as if you have and you will Be-DO-Have all that you Will.
Thank you for your fine work. Peace!
Hi, I think that sometimes when we ask people to ask empowering questions they get confused. Your idea of asking ‘What would a successful artist do?’ for someone with a goal of being an artist is a good one. However, I think that most people don’t really relate that to their life. They see the image of a successful artist working away in the studio as far away from their world. Too far to be empowering. If they brought a little reality to it, the question might help more. If they asked ‘What would a skilled artist do to get out of the hell I’m currently in?’ That might bring more of their hidden skill sets out. You can’t keep real world needs out of the picture. -
Ed,
maybe there is another way to look at ‘your hell’? maybe you have a lot of things to be grateful for? maybe focussing on those things would shift your perception of where you are, and that would get things moving in the direction you want to go to? ‘You respond to what you perceive, and as you perceive, so shall you behave’ (A course in miracles)
Isnt it odd that all these thingd lead to something to buy..the whole self-improvement industry is plagued by people using it as a vehicle to sell something..good or bad who knows..and preying on peoples genuine desire to make a better life.
shame on all you ..
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Hi Everyone;
In reading the above article I personally feel some very important and enlightening points were made by which one can certainly benefit to whatever extent one is able to understand and apply them, but I also consider that there were some erroneous conclusions made and put out in an overgeneralized way that reveals a lack of understanding on how the different functions of the mind work and how specific so-called “beliefs” and, therefore, supposed “choices” actually come about.
For example: It was stated:
“The basic lesson is very simple: you are where you are right now - you’ve been experiencing what you don’t really want to experience - because you made the choice, at some unconscious level, to be there.”
That is simply not correct in total. While I agree with the basic premise in the above statement, a choice is a CONSCIOUS decision between two or more options therefore an unconscious choice cannot be made as stated above.
There are ways, however, by which one can receive input, under certain circumstances, that will actually become unconscious dictates without the person making a definitive or conscious choice. It’s those unconscious dictates — often referred to as “beliefs” — that can mess a person up as well. So we need to be clear about how we say things and understand the mind and its different functions a bit better to avoid these over-generalizations thereby alienating people from important principles and understandings because there is a lack of understanding on the hows and whys one can can end up with an unconscious dictate that can, in effect, mess up a person’s life.
The second statement I would like to comment on briefly is the following statement that was made:
“Some people will argue that they didn’t choose their present circumstances. Or that it’s luck. Or “the breaks”. Or they say they’re on “part of a learning curve” or something. But the truth is that you can look at every area of your life: your marriage, your bank account, your relationship with others, your parenting, your physical health and the fact remains the same: you are where you are because that’s where your opinions, beliefs, and decisions PUT you. ”
I can agree with the statement as stated. But, again, there are gaps in understanding the mechanics of the mind, and the different levels of the mind that puts that statement in a different light than the way it was presented.
Again, what is not being understood is that not all “beliefs” and so-called “choices” are actually made by the person CONSCIOUSLY or with full awareness of what is actually happening. And until that is understood, I can understand why so many readers feel angry and frustrated and misunderstood. That’s because they are being misunderstood.
Thanks for listening.
John Lala, Jr.
Dear Barry,
Do you know that someone else, Darel Rutherford, promotes exactly the same ideas as you about being first, doing and having afterwards. Go and see for yourself on his site : www.togodorasgod.com . You will be amazed at what is attached to your cursor !!! I’ve done the “Being the Solution” workshop with him. It’s wonderful.
Grrrrreat minds meet each others !
Les grands esprits se rencontrent, dit-on, quand ils pensent la même chose au même moment.
Thank you for such a insightful blog !
Fran