(Cont’d) - The Mirror Dance
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The truth is, we’re all capable of every emotion and character trait. We just express and repress them to different degrees, and that reflects what we see in others.
The reason it annoys us to see traits in other people that we haven’t come to terms with ourselves is because we’re in the process of hiding from those traits. Denying that we have them. And as we all know, being in denial is a pretty strong state that can convince us that what we’re denying really doesn’t exist.
So we’re constantly dancing through life reflecting ourselves in the mirrors of others, and vice versa. But what happens when one mirror is so crystal clear that almost every trait you have is reflected in one specific other person?
If you’re like me, you’ll probably start off treasuring the friendship that person gives you, because you have so much in common. And you’ll probably want to work with them because they have the same vision, mission and purpose in life that you have. They want to accomplish the same things, change the world in the same ways, dream the same dreams.
And then you’ll start noticing the things that annoy you, that also annoy you about yourself, whether you admit that or not. And as you’re running away from them, and seeing them constantly reflected in the mirror, you’ll argue and fight with that image.
But what good does it do to fight with your own reflection? All you’ll end up doing is breaking the glass if you hit it too hard.
The solution is to love that mirror, and all that’s reflected in it… the good, the bad, the ugly… and the beautiful.
In fact, if you can shift your perception a bit, you’ll see it’s all beautiful. The good is beautiful because it makes you feel good. The bad is beautiful because it balances the good with the law of polarity (remember what Dr. Demartini says in his interview for Masters of the Secret: you can not be 100% positive, everything is a 50-50 balance of positive and negative).
And the ugly is beautiful because it shows you very clearly what you need to work on, what you don’t want to face, and what you can overcome with love and gratitude. It’s beautiful because it forces you to grow out of your comfort zone into the magnificent creature you truly are… and are meant to discover again.
The interesting part is, the more time you spend with your mirror, the clearer you see the reflection. Soon it gets to the point where you know exactly what each other are thinking without even saying it. And you know immediately when the other person does something that you do the same thing - like it or not.
You will see yourself reflected in every person you deal with, ever. That’s the puzzling way life works. But if you’re lucky enough to find the person who reflects you so much that you think it’s uncanny, and constantly shake your head in amazement, just smile and enjoy the ride.
Because trust me… you’re about to learn more about yourself than you ever wanted to know, and yet you’ll treasure everything you learn.
And, better yet, if you’re lucky enough to fall in-love with this mirror and feel your heart skip a beat every time you look into it, congratulations ! You’ve just put yourself into an arena of love that few ever step into, much less master: The art of self-love.
We’ve all heard the clichéd phrase, “It takes one to know one.” But, what it really means it that you cannot feel, see, or experience something in someone else UNLESS it is also inside you!
So, if you feel, see, or experience appreciation, respect, happiness, excitement, conversational compatibility, humor, inner peace, extreme support, and deep meaningful passion in your mirror, kudos to you for having amazing qualities of self-love.
The meaning of life is to play the game, have fun… and learn along the way. And what better way to do that than by dancing in the hall of mirrors, feeling true love, and seeing yourself reflected with every step you take?
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Dear all,
this is same as what coloured Sunglsses you wear .same kind of world you see.The energy within us tend to collect like minded pepole and situation at same location You see pepole who die in mass accident tends to have same kind of charecteristics,either numerologicaly ,alphabatically.
All the best Guys/Gals.Keep exploring inner energy.
Great post… I would add that in order to change yourself and the ‘mirror’ for the better (and in order to really shift your perception) is do a simple exercise of honest self-examination. Ask yourself, ‘are there times when I refuse to admit these same errors in me?’ and see what happens!
“Dancing in the hall of mirrors,” I love that phrase and I love being there. I think that’s what life is all about. And when we can dance in the hall of mirrors we are no longer casting our shadow on others. Would you agree? I think C.G Jung would appauld your statements.
I really like this post Heather, I have been very aware of the Mirror Effect for all my life. It’s because of my eyes, they’re a deep brown color and whatever I’m looking at is reflected back on the surface of my eyes. The effect is one of strong self-love when I look at my eyes in a mirror, I see myself looking at myself in a mirror reflected multipul times, it is a very powerful feeling and when I make eye contact with a woman it causes her to fall in love with me. It seems that I have “Lover Eyes”. Thank you for such a wonderful insightful post. Lawrence
If you don’t like what you meet on your way, read excellent online book by dr Michael Ryce: “Why is it happening to me… Again?!”
http://www.whyagain.com/book-en/Default.htm
In words of Joe Vitale - it is priceless…
Take responsibility for your life and enjoy the ride
There is a scientific reason for what you have stated. Universe works as one unit. Our thoughts move in the universe and are ppicked up by the likeminded persons. Often we say that when people move to new places they do not need to make an effort to meet the people who are like-minded because our thoughts are constantly being communicated. Accidental meetings take place with the like-minded people. This is not just coincidences, lots of physics is behind this phenomenon. Greater is our belief in whatever we believe in, greater would be our range of transmission and greater number of people we would be able to communicate with even though neither we nor the party we are communicating with is aware of this process.
Universal consciousness is not a philosophical entity, it is a physical entity and it controls everything that happens in the universe.
The detailed scientific explanation of this process is given in www.newphysicsworld.com
Thank you!
You have confirmed what I have been thinking!
It’s sorta like “Would you marry yourself?”
Beautiful post, that is the ultimate secret I suppose.I’ve been working with the mirror dance/principle for many years, after I was first exposed to it in the teachings of Arnold Patent.It provides the perfect solution to the “primordial problem” of the “other”.Very difficult to swallow at first but it unleashes alot of power if you keep at it .Thank you
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“And what better way to do that than by dancing in the hall of mirrors, feeling true love, and seeing yourself reflected with every step you take?”
I really love it. You have put a wonderful concept into the most beautiful expression I have ever read.
Thank you so much for sharing it with us. Thank you from my heart.
There is an excellent book out there by Debbie Ford about the shadow self which explains this whole concept very clearly. I wish everyone knew this and put it into practice, maybe then we would all manage to be less judgmental.
Well, these statements have helped make more sense of a recent relationship breakup in which my then partner accused me of being way too serious for her. I had the feeling at the time that she was the one getting serious. I think she projected her feelings on to me in order to accuse me so that she could back off (she had previously told me she would never get serious in a relationship again). Instead, we both found ourselves getting serious about each other, a condition we both denied and denied would happen again (we are two divorced persons and each of us has had numerous unfulfilled relationships since our divorces, thus the statements that we’d never ‘go serious’ again). We are so much alike, down to the knowing what the other would say before we’d say it bit. But this alikeness has also now driven us apart because of our stupid resolve. Very interesting.
I love the article! Learning to have an inordinant amount of self-love is the most difficult lesson I have yet to learn. But being reminded that even our worst qualities are OK, it makes me smile. Great job!
There are millions of words written about self-love and a world that serves everyone and celebrates all life. And yet it was said in just a few words thousands of years ago: do unto others as you would have them do unto you.
Isn’t it astounding that the human race has chosen to complicate the practice of wholesome living by misdirecting our need for more and more information! If we could only learn to follow that one simple rule of respect and honor while focusing our individual imaginations and intelligence on creating life systems that support all life on our planet. We certainly have the mental capacity to do that now.
God bless you Heather for this “Dance of Mirror”,
It is a such real life in this comments.I never believd may be this, the truth behind all our relationships.If all people would action every day as “looking themselves into a mirror”.may be it will be a better life for all of us.
I never thought before like this and now I was able to discover “why there were pwople in my life that I tried to love but It was just impossible”? Because I undestand now that all my hidden negative parts of mine were the same in those people.And the other reason was that I never loved myself and it is said that “if you may not love yourself or if you don’t know how to love yourself,then you will never know love the others”.That is a big truth!
It happens sometime to believe that you love so much a person that you may give your life for that , but almost all the time even I was given much love, it was not the same in return.In my life as an abused child,I grouwth up with the convinction that the life is bad and all the peoples are also bad. When I loved for the first time and I was absolutely sure that the other loved me also,I was extremelly happy..but this was only for 10 years.My life was so unhappy after,nobody can imagine!
I had a succesfull professional life but so much dissapointment and sadness in my last 30 years spent together my husband!
I was abused ,in a way,by my husband also and my jealousy was so great that finnaly we had nor a realy life spent together,but we had children so we had to educate them.
We lived as “brothers” not as husband and wife for the last 30 years,but we remaind also “friends”. I was thinking twice to left him but the last time when this happend,13 years ago, I did remember of Jessus and His teaching so I decided to love and to forgive.
I was able to change myself since I met my “real “soul during my meditation as during my lecturers about spiritual life and now we are living in enough peace.
It was impossible for me to forget even I was able to forgive him,so some times the “bad” happens again when I discover again and again (this is so funny for our old age!)another wemen from his past life spent without me. In these cases I become again angry and with the same sadness.
That means I am not yet hield and I need to work with myself and with this “bad” from our being.
I have a question for you,dear Heather: what to do when you see that the loved peson has good sentiments and manifest these for the last “lovers” but it is not able to manifest for his own wife?? My husband is very selflish,an egotic person and now I am convinced that I was wrong during my entirely life.I tolerated many things from him being so in loved with him. and this on the name of Jessus but also for my loving person that I am!
May be it’s me that I don’t like to see in the mirror,or it is that husband of mine,so loved but so far from my wish to “feel” from him that he loves me ,even as he loved those wemen from his past..
It’s so hard to live almost 30 years together a men and discover that with all yours efforts he may not change as attitude and feeling.
What to do in these conditions?
Jessus said “to love and to forgive!” but almost all the time people doesn’ know “HOW” to do this and WHAT to do!
You may see,that was such as a “confession”but you may see and know also other life experience that I am convinced many peoples had also during their marriage .
Thank you to listen,
Aurora
As I reflected on this note I thought of the most perfect (high vibrations) human I know of on earth, the Dalai Lama. When he was in our city for a speech several years ago, I heard stories of how the hotel staff that didn’t speak any language in common with him were just drawn to him and circled around to be near him every day. My hypothesis is that since the Dalai has his stuff together at such a deep level, being near him draws out other people’s most perfect qualities. We like seeing that version of ourselves in the Dalai’s mirror, and so we want to be near him so we can be with that version of ourselves. People still have their low vibrational qualities in themselves, but those are suppressed when we are around someone who extracts a higher vibration. This view makes a strong argument to beware the company that you keep - it determines the qualities you display most often as a person.
Look into the mirror and know that we are one.
I have received tremendous insight and healing from Byron Katie’s “the work” which hits right on the issues raised in your letter. She recommends questioning every belief/thought:
Is it true?
Can you absolutely know that it’s true?
How do you react when you think that thought?
Who would you be without that thought?
(Turn the statement around. Is that as true or truer? CAn you find another turnaround?)
Check out her website for beautiful work in knowing we are one and transforming the mirror! GREAT stuff!!!Kathy
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Ahhh, the dancing mirrors, they are interesting to say the least. What happens when we look through mirrors that have been distorted through our eye? Why do we try to make everything fit? Maybe if it were as simple as loving and accepting all of us and remembering that we are beautiful whole beings doing the best that we can, we could step through the mirror and experience what may be on the other side. To me it all comes down to how much we are willing and able to love and accept ourselves and being open to a new perspective…a new reflection if you may. It is then that we ask those imortant questions what is this experience showing me…can I see it? Can I accept it? Can I make a different choice. FAor what is right for now may not be right in a moment. Thank you for sharing your insights, Heather you have unbelievably open the world to so many people and given them new perspectives onto which they can build their own foundation and embrace and own their lives.
I love your post Heather!
You just reminded me of why we end up with the people we end up, why our job reflects our inner self, why our partner reflects it as well.
Thank you! And thanks for the great site, the MOS membership has been worth every single penny. You keep adding so much value… it’s so worth it! You guys inspire me a lot. Claudia
Thank you my dear, Heather!
Although this is something I have been going deeper and deeper in a group i joined a time ago, I have to admit it is something we have to remind us each and every second, to remove the old program we have, so thank you again, because i have just remembered that i have a projector in my chest.
Yria
Well…we all may say what we will about his personal indiscretions, however, Michael Jackson was onto something some 18 years ago with the song Man in the Mirror. That is truly where it starts for all of mankind - not meaning just man as in male gender. When researching the etymology or origin of the word “man”, we find that man means MIND. Thus man in the mirror? Thats where our reflection with all mankind truly exists. Sure, we share similar basic physiology, but what makes us the highest and most revered of all created beings is the MIND- so here and now, i invite all of mankind 2 join me in the ever-so-elite Hall Of Mirrors, and let us dance together like never before to MJ’s hit…”and no message coulda been any clearer, if u wanna make the world a better place, take a look at yourself and make a change!” Peace to all, As-Salaam Mulaikum, Shalom Alakiem, Namaste and God bless & favour you all, LuvJonz.
It is absolutely great Heather!
It is an eye opening instrument to re-discover our true-self when we look within from the common frame of reference of today’s collective mind make-up. The “Dance of Mirror” gives a strong holding post when our mind-sets are floating and flowing to newer dynamics constantly and it gives the opportunity to hold on for a while and look for the necessity to change of its course or characteristics.
For sure, the mirrors all around are capable of reflecting some characters of our shaped-self and consciously one can draw the picture of the shaped-self after careful observations of such reflections statistically over a period of time. One can grade the dominant and supporting traits for corrective steps for a different shaping of the shaped-self based on requirements and life situations.
We, humans got evolved passing through the principle of “survival for the fittest” and have come thus far. We are aware that we wish to have such experiences that give us positive sensations or feelings, we can call it pleasure and dislike negative experiences that cause pain. It is natural of our construct. Because, the causes for pleasure sensations are congenial to survival while the causes for pain sensations for death. We survived and the instinct for the desire towards pleasure became inherent.
However, in the process of pleasure hunting we used our minds constantly for/against each other and such actions-reactions over the ages made it a multi-disciplinary complex thought-memory system that now controls our “self”. More so, for self pleasure (survival), individual or collective, we used both “for” and “against” mind make-ups (resulting into corresponding actions) our thought-memory systems have developed characters from positive to negative extremes. So we experience both pleasure and pain and the later one is undesirable as it threatens annihilation. Commonly we experience many kinds of pain in our daily life, one of them is in our relationships.
It has been experienced by many that if this thought-memory system is brought under control such that we are able to stop our mind chatter and as required we use this complex system with control for our practical purposes, we remain in pleasure feeling state mostly. And this is the prime character of human survival that evolution has powered into. If so, we somehow got deviated from such principal characteristic of our true “self”.
Probably we had no way of this mass awareness for a very long period of time or the complexity of our mind chatter has grown so vast burring deep inside our true nature and it has become so dominant that we cannot dive deep within. The new era seems to be around the corner when many eye opening instruments are being made available for true self discovery and re-conditioning. The “Dance of Mirror” of Barry Heather should take us a long way in re-establishing the prime survival mechanism, be it collective or individual.
I do not belong to any church but I like the bible. It teaches all that we want to know. If we want something we have to ask for it. Not one time a day but many times a day and constantly. The bible says if you want something you have to ask it: ASK WHAT YOU WANT AND YOU WILL RECEIVE IT. You have to maintain your mind on your ASKING up to you have got it. We have to train our mind for that. We are one with humanity. There is a humanity MIND. We are connected to humanity through telepathy. We can get anything from humanity using the telepathic ways. WE ASK AND WE RECEIVE.
Just wanted to say that I read this at the perfect time.
I always tell my 8 clinical students that there are no coincidences-they are in my group to learn something about themselves from me and from each other and for me to learn something about myself from them.
This semester I was stuggling with some of the personaluities in my group until I remembered from the course in miracles-what I see simply reflects what is in me.
Then I learned to laugh & even love those parts of me they reflected-how true it is that we teach what we need to learn!
Cathy